One of the most common things that young people hear is that they should find a job they love. Unfortunately, many people aren’t lucky enough to do so. While it’s expected that people will work jobs that aren’t so great when they are younger, things feel far different when you’re stuck in that type of position when you’re more established. It’s becoming more common for people not just to dislike their jobs, but to actively hate them. This seems especially prevalent by the time workers hit the age of thirty-five, an age where the reality of one’s work experience tends to be sharply contrasted with one’s expectations.
There are a few reasons why people might start hating their jobs at the age of 35, but they all tend to revolve around the same basic principles – frustration. By 35, most people have an idea of where they think they should be in life and it’s rare that reality and fantasy line up. In the working world, it’s doubly true because there are so many factors that can keep even a fantastic employee in a position that might be far below where he or she thinks that he or she belongs. By 35, it becomes much clearer when advancement will and will not happen – and it’s easy to feel frustrated when you feel like the clock is running out on your career.
There’s also a feeling of frustration that comes with the assumption that one’s choices are becoming limited. By 35, many have committed themselves to a single field. Those that haven’t may feel like they’ll never get a chance to do so. By the time one reaches the old marker of middle age, it becomes clear that there’s not quite as much time to switch over to something new. Rather than viewing an unloved job as a pitstop on the way to something greater, it becomes a signifier of all the chances that an individual has lost over the years.
It’s becoming more common for people to do something about the lack of love for their jobs, though. 35 isn’t as old as it once was, so many take the plunge and go back to college. Others transfer to new jobs, hoping that they’ll find a new environment in which their skills are better recognized. While people certainly begin hating their jobs around thirty, they’re also becoming more motivated to do something about those feelings.